The Head and Heart of Wisdom
A very wise friend and I were laughing about how we succumb, once in a while, to climbing up the “ladder of assumptions” (Senge, 1994). This is an invisible process that occurs between your ears, in your sometimes addled brain. At its most troublesome, making inferences in the absence of rational evidence, looks a bit like paranoia. Here is a real example from someone I coached a few years ago: It is 10:00 PM at night and you notice that your resume has disappeared from the company website. It happens to be performance appraisal time, and you immediately suspect that your boss has already decided to let you go, and someone in the tech department heard about that, and took your resume down while he was doing the latest round of website revisions. You fret all night, and do not sleep a wink. Instead, you plan what you are going to say in your defense, come morning.
Thankfully, while driving into the office, a little wise voice inside of you suggests that your resume was accidently taken off the website. In spite of a lack of sleep, you sheepishly have to admit that you might have jumped up the ladder of inference and are mighty far from using all the information available to you to reframe the situation and consider different possibilities. And in fact, when you simply inquire about your resume, you learn that yours, as well as those of several colleagues, were mistakenly removed. Your resume was back up on the website within the hour.
The wisdom in this story is seen in the unique mixture of emotional management, experience, rational thought, and maybe even a bit of a sense of humor. We see wisdom in the outcome. We also see wisdom in the reflective process that mitigates pure emotional reaction. Engaging in these thinking processes when confronted with the “small stuff” flexes your wisdom muscle and prepares you to use wisdom when the “big stuff” hits.
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